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PAGE 4   JANUARY 2001

CALAMBA GAZETTE

ETIQUETTE SURVIVAL GUIDE

designated smoking facilities.  This includes cigars and pipes.
7. If you must smoke or if you are in a smoking area of a restaurant, ensure you use ashtrays, NEVER use your plate as one.
8. Never blow smoke towards other people (although seen as cool in the movies, especially the old movies and used as a seductive move, it is now considered very rude and offensive) blow upwards instead.
9. If someone blows smoke at you accidentally, it is okay to cough your disapproval.  If the other person does this again, it is okay to voice your disapproval, i.e. "If you don't mind, please blow your smoke at some other direction".  If this happens again, excuse yourself, and ask the host to sit you someplace else.  Never complain loudly to the smoker.  While it is ill mannered for the smoker to do that, it considered ruder and more ill mannered to voice in public what might have been the smoker's ineptness. Good breeding dictates this (European and American style). (I know it is hard, but Filipinos have a better explanation, consider this statement, this may explain it all, "Alam mo na palang sira ang ulo eh, pinatulan mo pa, e di mas sira ka").  This explains why some places are "classier" than others.
10. Always open doors for the ladies and the elderly, be it the vehicle of other entranceways or doors. Ladies must wait for a gentleman (if with them or one is available) to open doors for them).  When walking, gentlemen always stand at the side of danger.
11. Always pull the chair for lady you are with.  After she had sat down, be ready to slide the chair in towards the table, while she lifts herself up momentarily to position herself better. A lady must wait for a gentleman to pull the chair for her.  If it appears the gentleman is inept, she may sit herself down, but only after waiting a few moments and it had been obvious that the gentleman will not pull the chair for her.
12. Ladies must remove their gloves while sitting and having dinner.  Place them on the lap.
13. If ladies have to stand, they may wear the glove back and put the napkin to the left of the plate, never on the chair.
14. If you must use the napkin to wipe your lip, use a dabbing motion, never wipe to and from or side to side.
15. Gentlemen must stand whenever ladies or distinguished guest stand or approaches the table. Never stand when another gentleman approaches the table, unless the gentleman is the guest of honor. Only sit when asked to or when the lady or the distinguished guest leaves the table.

A Christian Calambeņo
Etiquette Survival Guide
For The New Millennium
100 TIPS

This would be nothing more than a refresher course for most of you.  It is impossible to list them all, but please let me know which ones you think are important that we should include it in this list. I plan to publish this in our Internet web site also.  This is all I could remember in one sitting.  There are other guides (behavior in church, in public transportation, in public halls, in meetings, in seminars, etc, etc).  Here, I did not group them, nor did I arrange them in any manner.  I guess now you know how scattered brain I am, ha ha ha.  I wrote them as I remembered them.

Behavior at a Dinner-Dance (Black tie preferred to white tie affair)

A Christian Calambeņo Gentleman or Christian Calambeņa Lady will always:


1. Pay attention to the use of AVOID, MAY, OKAY, ALWAYS and NEVER below and learn the differences among them.
2. Avoid chewing a gum, if you must, you must be sitting down and chew them with your mouth closed.  Avoid pronounced movement of your jaws.
3. Never chew a gum while standing up or dancing.
4. Never blow bubbles.
5. If you have to stand up while chewing a gum, use the wrapper that came with the gum and use the wrapper to retrieve the gum from your mouth, and put them on the table beside your plate, but never to be retrieved and used again, and never placed on the side of your plate.
6. Although some dance ballrooms allow for smoking, our 21st century decorum only tolerates smoking outside the ballroom, near the bar, in the hallways away from entrances, or in the lobby or other